Romance at its most passionate self!

As you all know, I have recently come to the conclusion that romance is dead (to me).

So to convince myself of that, I decided to subject myself to my all-time favourite romantic movie this weekend, and see if my heart is as dead as I'd like it to be. Or train it to be.

This romance movie was not about a sinking ship called the Titanic, it was not about reading a love story off a Notebook to a senile old lady, it was not about how Chocolate awakes your senses in Paris, it was not about some unrequited love in Casablanca, it was not about reaching for infinite love Yoda style like in the Fountain.

My favourite love story revolves around the love borne between a blue-eyed blonde lady and a 25-30 ft massive gorilla/ape.

Sigh, King Kong & Naomi Watts.

When I saw this movie in 2005, I cried dollops. All I remembered was blondie looking at Kong, and Kong's eyes looking at her. And then he felll.. splat. I remember thinking how Kong really wanted to be with her, and the forces of evil (humanity & common sense) not allowing him to.

So I saw it again over the weekend.

I couldn't help but think that this 30 ft gorilla showed more passion for a woman than any man I have ever dated in my life. Hahahaha! That is sad!

I mean, like a true guy, he is a big baby at first. He wants her to do whatever he wants. So she plays along, until she tells him to shut up and stop hurting her with his "games". She tries to run away from the beast, until she almost gets eaten up by some crazy dinosaurs. He keeps saving her, ALL the time. He gets mauled left, right and centre, and he doesnt show his injuries... he just makes sure she doesnt get hurt. Eventually she warms up to him. (this is beginning to sound like a Bollywood flick by now, without the hairy goons). He takes care of her while she sleeps on his hand. They share this emotional bonding moment of watching the sun set/or rise... cant tell. Then her (human) boyfriend comes to rescue her, and she escapes, but at Kong's expense... which leaves her forlon and depressed once she is back in town.

After Kong is all tied up and becomes an 8th wonder of the world to the human world, he realizes that she is the one familiar thing to him that he loves, and he tosses every bus and blonde lady looking for her. He finds her.. and what does he do? He does not kill her. He loves her. He cherises every moment with her. He takes her to the rink for a little spin. They share innocent laughs and games. Until the planes come for the big ape again.

ALL the time, throughout the movie, he makes sure he doesnt let her go.. whether she is abotu to be eaten, crushed, killed, whatever. He endures SO much brutality amongst wild animals and army people... that in the end, he just climbs up the Empire State building to corner himself.. all the while, taking care of her, making sure she is safe... and never showing that he is anything less than a protector, or a man.

His 3-D Hollywood eyes express so much love, man! I cried AGAIN and AGAIn this weekend. Don't die Kong, doooooooooont. (lol). SO much longing. Not the sick animal kind, its like.. pure in a weird innocent way. The kinda love for a person, not a possession. I mean, I hate to say it, but honestly, if most people were capable of expressing so much love for someone (in less violent way), we really would not have divorces or wars. As unrealistic as this Hollywood movie was, as crazy as it was, this special effects gorilla was more human and more honest than any man I've ever been with.

I don't want to have expectations like this from some random loser. I know my parents want me to get married soon, but I am really very turned off by it when I remember the choices I have to face if I were to do their bidding. Sometimes its really easy for me to express my passion for someone, and sometimes it is really hard. I wonder what I'd do if I met someone who was the first in expressing passion like that (ding ding ding ding pyscho alert?!) I mean, to someone who meant it and if I were to mean it too. I dont even know what I'd do. I am continuously in a love-hate-love-hate moment with the idea of love and passion. Its so surreal, at the same time, its so inherent in us that I think it is just wrong to not express it, if you were to feel it. And I think it is wrong when someone expresses it, and you just throw it back at them (think Wham!). I can be a total hypocrite though, Ive been at both ends of the spectrum there.

I just think its fascinating though. I don't "hate" men, per se, as Sandeep pointed out. I just dont get them, thats all. I really dont like playing games, but I know I do it too. I just... I dont know. Some people think we should be asking understand philosophers about the meaning of life, but I think we should be asking them whats the meaning of love. Cuz it is SO freaking complicated. 

No matter how often we say we do not have expectations, the thing is, we do... even for a little while, subconsciously. I mean, its a cliche, just that at the end of the day, we just want to be loved. To be needed. To be wanted. To be accepted. If not any of those, to be accepted. Even a dictator wants to be accepted.

I'm really looking forward to my little vacation. My parents will have the red carpet out for me while I'll be in Dubai. Theyre the only people who continue to bowl me away with their love, and disappoint me with it too when they smother me with it. But its a good feeling knowing that no matter how much and how often they do it, I will always have them to lean on to be true to me... they don't play games, they are honest, they show passion, and their love is really no different nor any more crazier than the one between a giant ape and a tiny blue-eyed blonde... except well, theyre human and I'm human and we're all the same size (relatively speaking).

Comments

[Azra]

They really did an excellent job with those eyes...this was a character that did not need to speak or utter one word...everything he could have ever wanted to say was expressed in the eyes.

Yeah sharing your sentiment. Romance is dead.
All we have is family.

[IOM]

Aww how sweet.

This just shows you that love comes in ALL shapes and sizes!

[saeeda]

aww

yh i loved tht movie 2. havnt seen it in....agesss xD

n tha thing is... i dnt lyk romance movies usually.

[Dude]

Enough from all you gals out there!

It does not mean that because some men behave like jerks, the rest of them are jerks too.

Have patience and be optimistic and most definately you will find that prince charming that wont be like the movies.He will be real and better!

[Mary]

I must agree with all you said in your latest post, Isheeta. I have been trying to find love for a very long time. And that’s just the thing - we all try. Maybe we should stop trying and just live in the moment. Not in the past but neither in the future. So, I have given up on trying to find the right man. If I am destined to find him, I will. He will come to me one day, just like he surely will come to you. And I feel it in my guts that the moment he comes, there won’t be any stupid games people play. Because I still believe that pure, true love is simple.
Keep writing, we all love reading your posts very much :)
Greetings from Europe, Slovakia
Mary

[Dugi]

I'm with Dude and Mary.

and

Have heapssssssssssssss of fun in Dubai. I'm loving the pics on facebook. It totally convinced me to take a holiday there in Summer (Nov 09) xoxo

[sophister]

It exists only in the minds of women, and romantic comedies.

[Sid]

Man! If King Kong had you balling, you HAVE to watch WALL-E, the Pixar movie from last year....

Now that could make a grown man cry..

S.

[Utenzi]

You just liked Mr Kong 'cause he can't talk. A male trait all women are looking for but just can't find. At least not within their own species.

[Mary]

No, Utenzi, Mr Kong can talk. It´s his actions that speak louder than words. And that´s exactly what women look for, both within and outside their own species :)

[isheeta]

thank you for all your thoughtful comments, people.. Mary, I guess you put it best. :)